7 Challenges To Master and Use To Defeat Bullying Today

Bullying is happening in epidemic proportions in schools, on the playground, in the work place and almost everywhere else!


Some eye-opening statistics.

  • 1 out of 4 kids are bullied.
  • 43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school.
  • Each day 160,000 students in the U.S. miss school for fear of being bullied.
  • 100,000 students carry a gun to school.
  • More youth violence occurs on school grounds as opposed to on the way to school.
  • Playground school bullying statistics- Every 7 minutes a child is bullied. Adult intervention – 4%, Peer intervention – 11%, No intervention- 85%

And now some scarier stuff…

  • Teenagers say revenge is the strongest motivation for school shootings.
  • 87% said shootings are motivated by a desire to “get back at those who have hurt them.”
  • 86% said, “other kids picking on them, making fun of them or bullying them” causes teenagers to turn to lethal violence in the schools.


We will be outlining the 7 challenges and writing in more detail about each challenge in future articles. The seven challenges are:

  1. Violence, Bullying, and Respect – All of these play a very important role in becoming bully proof. We need to understand the meanings of each and how they play a role in our bully proof efforts.
  2. Conflict resolution – we will help our readers and our students understand the six steps to conflict resolution – without violence!
  3. Recognizing Feelings – Feelings in ourselves and others. We also call this Emotional Intelligence.
  4. Controlling Your Anger – When we lose our cool, things can escalate and get out of control really fast. This usually doesn’t benefit anyone (you or the bully).
  5. Being Assertive – We can be assertive without being aggressive. We certainly do not have to accept being bullied.
  6. Bully Confrontations – At some point we have to face up to the bully. We are going to teach you how to do this with confidence and how to escalate it to the proper authorities in a way to get results.
  7. Don’t Be A Bystander – Bystanders who do nothing are part of the bullying problem. Learn how to NOT be a bystander, how to help reduce the bullying problem.

Stay tuned for upcoming articles where we will break each of these seven challenges down with some very specific details to help you get through these and become bully proof. In the meantime, go to https://www.stopbullying.gov/ to learn more about signs to look for in your child that they are being bullied.

Have you ever been bullied? How did you handle it? Did anyone intervene?

Stan Shields

Stan N. Shields is a 6th Degree Black Belt, three-time world champion, and has been teaching martial arts to kids and adults for over 23 years. You can contact him directly at stan@stanNshields.com

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